Mary,
Because my back injury was Worker's Comp related the 2nd opinion process could take a while as well (usually 2-6 mo) so I took it upon myself to get my first 2nd opinion from Dr.Bertagnoli and then used that to sort of "push off" the ADR idea here in the states when they were still in trials.
I ended up getting a number of opinions (utilizing Mark's services) and ulitmately the 2nd surgical opinion rendered by WC was years later but the important thing is to at least get a highly reputable opinion that may help you with your more immediate decision I would think.
If you're able to spend a bit of $ to send your films and information to doctors elsewhere you can get an opinion without being seen.
Good luck~ I'm sorry that you're going thru this and esp. with Amiah needing you tho it sounds like you definately have your reason to pursue getting *better*.
Wishing you the best
