Oh Jess, hang in there. We seem to be so much alike....clumsy fingers and all
I really relate to the see-saw of emotions...I have been fighting so hard for surgery for the past year and a half, and now I am terrified as well. I normally don't worry about 'things' until they are right on my doorstep, but this is creeping up on me fast. Like you, I'm really worried about the post-surgery pain...big time. Worried that it is going to be worse than what I'm experiencing now. With medication, I can control it now. But in a hospital, at night, at the mercy of nurses who may or may not give me the correct dose ON TIME before it gets out of control....well, that is another thing altogether.
Do you notice that I'm worried about control issues?
Jess, I think you should send your dear husband to the 'caregivers' forum
He may gain some insight there once it gets rolling!