How did/do you deal with the stress?

symara · #1 (**permalink**) 05-12-2009, 04:22 PM

Reading everyones posts here has helped me not feel alone...

especialy as I sit here at my desk trying not to cry.

My husband and I both work at the same company, but for different supervisors. His is a little more strict and expects him to be here for 50-60 hrs a week (we are both exempt) mine in relaxed and as long as i do my 40 a week i'm good. so he's expected to be here for 10 hrs a day regardless if he takes his hour lunch or not. He just re-iterated (sp?) that to me and I just feel like crying, we car pool and these long days are killing my back to the point of tears. I have a desk job and getting up every hour or even 1/2 hour is not helping.... the day isn't even half over and I just feel so depressed at spending another 4.5 hrs here...

Katie · #2 (**permalink**) 05-12-2009, 04:41 PM

Oh, I am so sorry for you. Big hugs.... ((()))

Is it possible to file for disability, either long or short term? It will hurt the family income, but if you get to the point where you can't function at all, that will not help anyone....we have been in this rocky boat...most of us. Really sit down and take stock of what is important in your life. You'd be surprised at what is 'expendable' right now...not forever, but to just to get you through the day easier.

You can call me anytime...pm if you like.

symara · #3 (**permalink**) 05-12-2009, 05:04 PM

I have thought about filing disability, but we are in too much debt right now. One thing after another has broke down in our house in the last 6 months, right after we made two big purchases of a big screen TV and a new car... which we would have been fine with just those two, but then we had to replace our sewer line, fridge, oven, microwave, hot water heater, sump pump, and probably something else I'm forgeting. We just can't decrease our income right now.

I can't even afford to take off for surgery until Aug (If I'll be off longer than 8 weeks) if I want to supplement my STD with my vac and sick leave to get 100% income.

Plus, my job wouldn't be here when I came back from disability, I know that, I would be off longer than 12 weeks and they wouldn't be able to hold it longer than that. It's a good job, I can't afford to lose it.

treefrog · #4 (**permalink**) 05-12-2009, 05:32 PM

Is there any place that you can lie down at your work?

I understand the financial worries.

With the economy the way it is, it's scary to think I might not be able to come back to work within 12 weeks, and then to lose my job. As it is, I will have to come back to a different job. My boss can't hold my job.

But, I have to think positively. Or I would never get through surgery. And I know this is my only shot at being able to function normally again.

I hope you can find a doctor to get a second opinion.