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[Katie]

Well, Dear Heart and I are just about 'screwed' (yes, excuse the pun ), with me being broken at both levels, the neck and the lower lumbar. Let's just say he is a very patient man, especially with us being almost newlyweds.

I truly almost panic when he comes close and puts any pressure on my neck or lower back. All desire is gone on my part, and that is so not me. I was so excited to find someone who enjoyed being 'active' as much as I did, and now between the pain and heavy doses of medication, it is gone, just gone.

I also have this weird pain on my abdomen that feels like electric shocks whenever I am touched, just on the skin, even if I touch it. I guess it is hypersensitivity from nerve damage, and sure hope it goes away after surgery. So even touching is not pleasurable.

While I'm sure the good doctor didn't include sex in the warning when he said to be extremely careful about any sudden motion, as the compression on my spinal cord is so bad that he is classing me as an emergency, it is still in the back of my mind.

I just want to cry for both my husband and myself over this...it is just not fair. It sounds like most of you have not lost your desire, which is a big part of the whole thing. Is there a viagra for women yet? But I understand that the drug doesn't increase desire, just the ability to do the deed?